LOOSE ENDS

Posted on 9th March 2013 in CHANGE, EXPLORING OURSELVES, ONE DAN'S OPINION

imagesHave you ever heard someone describe their day as productive and successful because they “tied up a bunch of loose ends”?

What does that actually mean?

What are loose ends, and do I have any?

Chances are likely a resounding YES!  So what are they?

Loose ends come in many sizes and forms, from work related tasks, around the house projects or personal obligations which we have started but not yet finished.  Wether it’s a fix up job you promised your partner you’d take care of, a car service that is long overdue, or and unfinished work project, most of us have them.

Good and Bad Loose Ends 

Just to be clear not all loose ends are a problem; just the ones which bother you. Loose ends that you don’t want can take a lot of mental energy out of you.  These are the bad loose ends.

Back to the car service example. Perhaps you have been putting off a blinking light on the dash board or a squeak under the hood because you suspect that the mechanic will notice it and several other issues that you can’t afford.  So you put it off because you are afraid of bad news.  You are not helping yourself by ignoring the problem that could be getting worse, and potentially more expensive, but you do anyways out of fear. Plus you just don’t have the time to deal with it right now because you have too much else going on, too many loose ends.

Bad loose ends are not something we think about “all the time”.  Usually we remind ourselves about bad loose ends when there are fewer distractions (or no distractions), thus the loose ends never give us a chance to relax. This can create a tremendous amount of stress for us.

Good loose ends are the unfinished projects that don’t take any mental energy from us because they have positive feelings attached to them. One of mine is this blog; it’s ongoing and never finished yet I enjoy writing, expressing myself and sharing my thoughts. Occasionally there are things about my web logging which bother me, but overall it’s a very positive project I am getting a lot from.  There is very little stress from this loose end.

How to Deal With Bad Loose Ends

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The answer is quite simple.

Get it done; make it happen.

Until you do, it will consume mental energy that promotes uneasiness inside of you.  That’s why people are happy when their day consisted of “tying up a bunch of loose ends”.

Now that’s easy for an outsider to say and we usually procrastinate “bad loose ends” for a reason whether it be fear, uncertainty, or lack of guidance.

What if the project is too big?  ’Dan, you just don’t understand, I can’t just fix this really huge problem’.

If the project which is causing you the most anxiety is large then it might be helpful to break it down into smaller pieces.  So do that.  Break it down into smaller pieces so that you can keep moving forward.  Also, make a commitment to yourself and a friend that you will get started immediately and also commit a certain amount of time each day, or week, to work on the smaller steps of the bigger project. We all know that just ignoring something never makes it go away. Like it or not, action is the only way to take care of things. This is also how you will rid yourself of the anxiety it’s been causing.

‘But I don’t know where to start…’  Well then you need to figure that out.  Talk to someone who has had a similar type of issue. If they are of little help don’t give up, talk to someone else until you get some sound advice. Additionally, everything you can imagine is just one google search away.

Believe me, you will thank yourself when it’s done. Besides, how many times have we looked back on a completed project and thought, “it really wasn’t that bad; I can’t believe I waited so long to complete it”.

Remember there are good loose ends and bad loose ends.  Keep the good ones, but complete the bad ones, move on, just do it as quickly as you can so they no longer occupy any time or space in your life.

DO IT!!!  Get started today.

All the Best,

Dan McCaughan

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